Two Things You Need to Understand About Relationships, Energy & Justice

As we say in England, “let’s cut out the bollocks”. Meaning, let’s not talk BS.

There are two truths I need you to understand when it comes to intimate relationships, and collective consciousness with regard to what ‘enlightenment’ is.

In brief:

1. Are you with someone in person and you are psychologically below neutral or well below neutral? Choose silence. Go do something (self-soothing) on your own. You must get that time alone without a phone, without distractions and be loving to yourself.

2. The current collective consciousness around ‘enlightenment’ is fake AF. It’s not some ‘woo woo’, deep spiritual voice, “I am one with everything”. It’s Justice! It’s Divine Justice!

This isn’t for the faint-hearted. But you already knew that.

Truth 1: When someone’s vibrating below neutral… they won’t shut up.

I’m not saying that to be cruel… I’m saying it because it’s true.

And I’m not talking about emails, tweets, or vague passive-aggressive posts from behind a screen. I’m talking about in-person energetic resonance. The real thing. The stuff that happens when two nervous systems collide in the same physical space.

When someone’s below neutral on the Hawkins Scale… that means shame, guilt, fear, grief, or their favourite cocktail: rage pretending to be love… they can’t sit still in your presence.

They talk. They rant. They accuse. They trauma-dump. They try to twist reality just enough to make you the problem.

And sometimes it goes even darker.

If you dare to hold your frequency… if you don’t collapse or placate or dance for their validation… they’ll come for you.

I’ve experienced this firsthand.

Recently, since becoming a father, the number of direct attacks on me and my family has gone from 1 (pre-baby - so that’s 1 in 40 years)… to at least 25 (post-baby - so that’s 25 in 14 months). And I’m not being metaphorical.

Actual threats.

Veiled death threats.

One person even threatened my whole family.

Energetically speaking, having a baby — creating new life — seems to trigger everything unprocessed in those who refuse to evolve. It’s like our joy, our creation, our embodiment of love threatens the very identity structure of people still stuck in the abyss.

And here’s the thing:

People who are vibrating below neutral will always try to pull you down with them.

They don’t want resolution.

They don’t want connection.

They want a host. An energetic host they can plug their unresolved chaos into.

So when someone’s talking too much… or lashing out… or spiralling in your field, don’t try to fix it.

Feel where they’re vibrating.

If it’s below neutral, silence won’t save you… boundaries will.

Because at this level, it’s not about what’s being said…

It’s about what’s being transferred.

People below neutral on the Hawkins Scale (shame, guilt, fear, grief, victimhood… you know the drill) tend to talk incessantly in relationships.

But it’s not real communication. It’s nervous system leakage.

They talk not to connect, but to escape themselves.

They talk to defend, distract, justify, trauma-dump, intellectualise, or turn their emotional chaos into a never-ending monologue.

“Let me explain to you for the 93rd time why I’m right and why my inner child is more oppressed than yours and that you have a dragon in the 47th dimension that has injected a dark shadow self into your field”

The irony?

The more they talk, the less intimacy there is.

Because intimacy lives in silence. In breath. In attunement.

If you or your partner can’t stop talking when things get real — pause.

Don’t ask “What are they saying?”

Ask:

“Where are they speaking from?”

If it’s below neutral… you’re not in a conversation. You’re in a storm.

Truth 2: Enlightenment is not soft. People with a PhD in spiritual bollocks say that. It’s Divine Justice.

Not this Tolle/Mooji/Old Man Doing Prayer Poses “sit on a bench and pretend you’ve transcended all emotions” vibe. That’s spiritual sedation.

Real enlightenment isn’t calm — it’s clear.

It doesn’t avoid confrontation.

It doesn’t make room for manipulation and call it compassion.

And it sure as hell doesn’t tolerate manipulation dressed up as wokeness.

Enlightenment is Divine Justice in motion.

It walks into the room and every mask starts to tremble.

Because when you’re operating from a clean, calibrated, present state — the kind of presence born from pain, practice, and radical honesty — you become a mirror.

And mirrors don’t lie.

In relationship, that means you don’t need to win arguments.

You don’t need to over-explain.

You don’t need to “teach them how to love you”.

You become the consequence.

You are the karmic return.

Your energy does the work — silently, and with precision.

If someone is talking too much and nothing’s changing, they’re still below neutral.

If you’re chasing peace without truth, you’re not enlightened — you’re escaping.

Let’s stop pretending silence and softness are the same thing.

And let’s stop calling spiritual bypassing “holding space”.

Because truth?

Truth is the highest frequency of love.

And love without justice is just codependency in spiritual drag.

Speak less. See more.

Hold the line.

– Stephen James

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